Being an effective parent is not easy. Parents often "fly by the seat of their pants," and they often repeat the same mistakes with their own children that their parents made with them.
In fairness, it should be said that the tendency to blame parents for almost everything that goes wrong with their children is unfair and inaccurate.
All of us inherit certain tendencies over which our parents have no control (they may give as our genes, but they can’t change them. And the influence of peer groups can be more powerful than the benefits of even excellent parenting.
Nevertheless, good parents can make a difference by avoiding some of the main mistakes that uninformed parents tend to make. Less effective parents, for example, make their children feel guilty if they misbehave.
In other families, a poor school report is made into a sin. A child who is made to feel morally wrong for some minor shortcoming may come to view herself as a bad person, and fail to develop an inner sense of self-acceptance.
Poor parenting would have a little boy who runs into the street being chastised and called a “bad boy!"
A wise parent would issue a firm warning about the dangers of running into the street without attacking the child.
How to be an Effective Parent